It's finally done and dusted, set in stones, moments captured forever!If I were to blog about our wedding - those are my sentiments exactly. A mixture of relief (almost of good riddance), happiness and a sense of bemusement all rolled into one. I'd love to imagine that I was an eager bride; bathed in all those abundant romance with dreams of her big day. Filled with high hopes and expectations (the part about the expectations was probably true). I wasn't...exactly.
When we discovered that our plans to elope fell apart; we sat down and set the date for the big day. For the initial month or two I was filled with enthusiasm. In a day or two I managed to picture the whole wedding down to the details. I most definitely drove AJ to frustration and tears with my constant droning about the wedding. I drove myself to tears for his lack of participation.
Month 3 onwards... I got bored. Dealing with all the logistics just drove me mad. Dealing with vendors (photographers, bridals, tailors, wedding venues, florists etc etc) and two sets of mothers and fathers (bless them) from across the oceans weren't exactly exciting. Very trying would be the best phrase to decribe how I felt most of the time. Somehow words didn't translate well across all that distance. I marvelled at all those bride-to-bes who managed to maintain their enthusiasms till the very end. By month 6...I almost gave up. During the last few weeks leading to the BIG DAY...I found myself swept away by the forces that I found I could no longer control. ACCEPTANCE was a difficult but necessary concept to swallow...especially for a Chinese bride with liberal ideas.
AJ did come to the rescue in the end. And God did send his angel in the form of Big Kev. Many thanks! Both to God and Kev. And many love and kisses to AJ.
All in all despite all the kerfuffle, I am amazed now looking back how well everything turned out. There were minor blips, a few frustrated tears, some minor disappointments (mainly due to my apparently high expectations?) - at the end of the day it was a beautiful wedding and I wouldn't have it any other way.
So I shall blog more about our marriage - our holy matrimony. One of AJ's biggest contribution to the whole wedding preparation was to organise our marriage course with our pastor. With all the self vanity and at times overboard fantasies all rolled into one, it was very easy to forget what it's all about. In the midst of getting the best photographer, the ideal theme and colour, the dress, the shoes, all the teeny details - I could have easily missed the big picture all together.
Yes it was our wedding - but in essence it was more than that. A marriage; union in the eyes of the Lord. I'm glad that AJ insisted on the sessions with Pastor L. It made us (especially me) realise that the wedding was just the begining. As we made this commitment; most blessed sacrement to God, we have made a promise to uphold this promise for as long as we live. It made us realised that there's another person in this relationship, no longer just us. It's also not just a union of two persons, but of two families. That realization eased me into accepting (partially if not fully) our parents' demands for the wedding.
We've known each other for so long; that we took simple things like communication for granted. It was funny how we had to learn to 'speak' to each other again. All it took was a little more understanding, a little more effort and a lot more prayers to reduce the number of squabbles. And let there be peace in the home...It's easy to think of ending a relationship when the feeling's gone. When I understood what the Lord intended the marriage to be, love became more than just a feeling (1 Corinthians 13). I've learnt that in this marriage, our love needs to be nurtured. There will ups and downs. Happy moments and unfulfilled dreams. We will walk through many stages of our lives together (by God's grace); celebrate our successes together and cry in each other's arms.
I pray that the Lord will continue to nurture our marriage as we made our vows. It'll be sweet 50 years on when we sit by the patio in our rocking chairs, wearing our incontinence pads and false teeth; and look back through the years and say - it's all worth it.
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2 comments:
OMG OMG OMG...SO Purrrtieeeee.....I hope my wedding gonna turned out as grand as urs....
Hope the two of you have a long lasting loveeee.Keep in mind what pastor L has said. All made sense.
Indeed you've gone through frustrations and mixture of emotions throughout the whole wedding plan. Understand how difficult it was to plan a perfect wedding a year ahead at a distance.It showed that how much you care on the relationship and marriage. I constantly listened to your complaints and arguments with mum each time we talked. It was hard at certain point to be the middle person what more to say im in Australia and i got to call mum and say "well Ling ask me to tell you this this and this".
Well, not anymore for now and wish it will never happen again.XD
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